When you are sexualizing and objectifying you are not spiritualizing, nor are you intellectualizing.
Seeing through the eyes of lust, you will not see the Lord or the other person, let alone read that person with any kind of understanding.
You are in a relationship with your own body, not with another person or the Lord.
Always walking the walk of shame, leads ever nowhere but into the sins of lust.
You will never find happiness having relationships with your own lustful desires in unclean minds and impure hearts.
Treating your future love upon first meeting in disrespect and dishonor will not be a good way to start a relationship and is a sure way to end one.
Distancing yourselves from the Lord and the Lord's commandment to treat people the way you would want to be treated in shame and dishonor, only lead you on a path further away from salvation.
It is worse if you are practicing sexual abuse, because it means you are on the path of unholy damnation with heinous crimes against humanity and harm against a child of God*.
* "See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him."
1 John 3:1
