You may think you know a person, but do you really?  

Those that manipulate only see things through their own selfish gains and desires.

Those that control only have relationships with themselves in a street going just one way.

In relationships, a two way street, it takes mutual consent, respect and regard.

Wishful thinking selfishly, is not reading, respecting or having actual regard for the other person.

It is also not passive aggressive when them have been told time and time again no from the get go and them just chose to ignore it and still do abusive things without consent.

Getting angry and retaliating against the victim for things not turning out the way them want is irrational, because it was not real to begin with, just fraught with fabrications, abuses and lies.