Monday, April 22, 2019



Life is complex.  I use to think it easy to follow great philosophers and think positive. 

Unfortunately, there are really bad people out there, capable of and do perpetrate real harm and cause traumatic injuries. 

It becomes difficult to think positive when seriously injured and abused; and to not have these bad experiences change you in a major negative way. 

When describing bad experiences or sins of perpetrators, which by nature are negative actions, sins or crimes, there is no way to change this history of the negative to positive no matter the spin.
Since the problems of abuse, sins or crimes, are not committed by the victim or survivor, expecting the victim to change history or behavior, in other words, victim blaming or shaming, does nothing to change the negative behaviors of the perpetrators. 
Take this statement by the philosopher Lao Tze:

Watch your thoughts; they become words. 
Watch your words; they become your actions. 
Watch your actions; they become your habits. 
Watch your habits; they become your character. 
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. 

How do you watch your thoughts when tortured or abused? 
When injuries are caused to you then there are automatic responses to the pain and suffering. 
The victim did not initiate or cause the thought of abuse, the action of abuse or tragedy. 
The trite statements of forgiveness, as if forgiveness can be forced
or as if forgiveness by the victim will stop the abuses when it is not the actions
or the character of the victim that caused the abuse, sin and crime. 
Having moral outrage is not a sin, it is a just and moral response to sin, crime or injustice (as Jesus would attest when confronting money changers in the Temple). 
Realize, however, victim or perpetrator, dreamer or good deed doer, that ultimately you are still responsible for your thoughts, actions and character. 
If you make bad choices that damages your character, you will most likely be destined for bad consequences and ultimately Hell. 
Do not throw away salvation by damaging your character. 

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