Kindred,
Your friend has been acting like he is a god, as if he
needs to be worshiped (like a false idol), while he is treating people with
disrespect, dishonor and disregard.
Now his lies and grandiose delusions are starting to
be exposed. Caught in some of his lies
and crimes, he gives excuses, blames the victim and demands to be forgiven.
And if the victim cannot forgive, then it is the
victim who is bad and unchristian.
My question is:
Where is the ask?
Shouldn’t
he ask, instead of demand, to be forgiven?
Where is the sincerity?
Shouldn’t
he be honest and truthful in remorse?
Where is the repentance?
Shouldn’t
he actually be sorry for causing pain and harm, instead of sorry that he is caught?
Where is the atonement?
Shouldn’t
there be efforts to change the negative behaviors and to stop the patterns and
practices of sin?
Demanding that the victim do something to correct the
negative behaviors, when the victim is not the perpetrator, when the victim did
not do anything wrong, is not reasonable or even possible. It is not the victim’s lies and crimes.
At no time did the victim have effective control or
any control over perpetrator’s actions and sins.
Why then would it be the responsibility of the victim to
correct the wrong(s)? How would it even
be possible?
